This post wraps up our series on bridal registries. Today’s post is all about etiquette on writing thank you cards. Believe me when I tell you, people will notice if they receive a thank you note from you or not! Sending out thank you notes are not only the proper thing to do--it’s the right thing!
You’re back from your honeymoon, and it’s time to get those cute note cards out and start writing your thank you notes! It is a good rule of thumb that your thank you notes should all be sent out two to three months after the wedding. Set yourself a deadline to have all of your thank you notes sent. However, your guests will be happy to find a heartfelt thank you note in the mail at any time!
Send a Card
Do not send a generic, mass email or text. A hand-written thank you note is more personable and more sincere than a typed email. Pick out some fun stationary cards and a good pen and you are ready to get to work! TJ Maxx and Marshalls always has a really cute selection of thank you cards or blank cards to pick from. You could also match your thank you notes stationary to your wedding invitations. These are really cute newlywed notecards from Etsy. These with awedding picture are also really cute--but make sure you will get your photos back soon enough.
Ask Your Spouse to Help
To get your notes sent out fast, ask your husband to write thank you notes to his friends and family while you work on thank you notes to your friends and family. This will get your job done faster! If you have full time jobs, you could plan to each write ten thank you notes a night to send in the mail.
Keep a List
Write down the gift and the person’s name that gave you the gift. The more specific your list is, the better. You want to be very specific in your thank you note. After you have written the thank you note for each gift, mark it off of your list.
Write your thank you notes as soon as you receive a gift, this will help you to not have as many notes to write after the wedding. It is proper to have all of your thank you notes from a wedding shower sent out no later than three weeks after the event.
Who You Should Thank
Every gift--whether it is money, an item for your home, or even a social event in your honor such as a Bridal Shower or Bachelorette Party should be acknowledged. Thank the hostess that had your Bridal Shower, Bridesmaid Lunch, or Bachelorette Party for you. It costs them time and money to throw a shower for you--they will be glad you thanked them for their generosity! Friends or family that traveled a long way for your wedding should also receive a thank you note (regardless of if they gave you a gift or not--their presence at your wedding was a wonderful gift). After all, they traveled a long distance for you--which is not cheap. Acknowledge your gratitude in writing in a timely manner!
How to Write a Heartfelt Thank You Note
When writing a thank you note, thank them for the gift they gave you. Write how you plan on using the gift they gave you. If they gave you money, let them know how you plan to spend it--a down payment on a house, your honeymoon, or a date night. Then let them know you care about and appreciate them and their thoughtfulness on your wedding gift. Sign both of your names on the card, and then get it sent out as soon as possible.
Better Late Than Never
If you are already past the three month mark on sending out your notes, send one anyway. It is always nice to receive a thank you note in the mail, and your guests will appreciate the thoughtfulness of your note whenever it is sent!
Maybe it’s the Southern girl in me, or me being old-fashioned but I think a heartfelt thank you note is a must! Please don’t think that sending out thank you notes is not necessary these days. I can’t stress this enough--it really does go noticed if a guest is never thanked for a gift they bought you for your wedding. A thank you note goes a long way--so make sure you thank each person that spent time and money on you and your spouse. Happy writing!
In case you missed it, check out the rest of our series on the wedding registry.