I received a lot of advice at my bridal showers and throughout the planning process. Some advice I found really funny, and other advice I chose not to listen to. It’s been almost three years since I got married, and there was a lot of advice that I honestly don’t remember—but one tip, I do remember. It stood out to me, and really was the best marriage advice I ever received.
At my bridal tea, I had a precious family friend tell me something that I will always remember, and it resonated with me. She started out joking with me that “sometimes he might get on my nerves, and one night, I might wanna hit him over the head with a frying pan!” Bless. Of course, she was obviously just kidding—you just have to know her—she is the funniest little lady ever, y’all! She was married for almost 50 years, before her husband passed away, and I kind of consider her as an “adoptive grandmother”.
Her advice to me was this:
“Find a marriage you want to follow—that you look up to—and only listen to their advice. Nobody else.”
THAT’S IT! Just one single tip!
The marriages you look up to—those are the ones that give you hope for your own marriage—because happy marriages DO EXIST.
I really took her advice to heart, and thought about the marriages of those around me, and which ones I wanted my marriage to resemble. My parents have been happily married for over 30 years, and my grandparents had a long, happy marriage for over 50 years.
I want my marriage to be like the ones that I grew up watching—the ones that showed me what marriage was all about. And in fifty years, I want my future children and grandchildren to see the love my hubby and I have, and want the same for their own relationships, too.
That my friends, is the best marriage advice I ever received, and maybe it's the best marriage advice you'll ever receive, too! Her precious legacy will live on in my marriage; and maybe through your marriage.