*Disclaimer: All thoughts and opinions in this post are mine.*
To negotiate or not with wedding vendors... that is the question. This is a frequently asked question; and is a popular debate in the wedding world.
Recently I read an article that I did not agree with, and it gave tips on how to negotiate with your wedding vendors. I’m not saying you can’t try to negotiate with wedding vendors; but I’m on the side that says you should never negotiate. I planned my own wedding, and now I’m in the wedding business—so I see both sides to this debate.
I get that weddings are expensive and I know everyone has a budget to follow. Every penny counts. However, I also know what goes on behind the scenes of a wedding—and I know how much time and energy every single vendor puts into a wedding. It takes a village—a great team of wedding vendors to make a bride’s vision a reality!
Think about it...
Would you ever go to a five-star restaurant and order the most expensive thing on the menu; and then explain to the waiter that you only want to order half of the steak and want to pay for half of the meal's price? Nope.
Would you ever go to the doctor’s office and negotiate your co-pay to see the doctor? Nope.
In fact, you’ve probably never thought about negotiating for any of those services. Why?
You go to a five-star restaurant for the quality of the food and service. The doctor is a professional and knows how to make you feel better. So…. if we (the customers), also expect for our wedding vendors to deliver, high quality professional services, then why do we think it’s okay to negotiate with wedding vendors for the biggest day of our lives?
A Wedding Vendor...
Most wedding vendors own and operate small family owned businesses. They have a business to run, employees to pay and families to support. Many have starting prices or packages; and if you've booked several services with them, they may have already given you a discount.
Each vendor will spend numerous hours prepping for your wedding before the day ever arrives. From making timelines, finalizing details, prep work for custom orders and designs, to coordinating with you and other wedding vendors. Each vendor has put in many hours of work for you before the big day ever happens. This won't be our first wedding, and that means we've had many, many years of experience! That's why you've hired professionals.
Then it’s the day of your wedding—go time—and we (the wedding vendors) all come together to make your day magical! We have invested time in your day, and know the plan for your wedding backwards and forwards. In fact, we are probably going to solve a problem or two that may happen on your wedding day—and you’ll never even know they happen!
A Wedding Vendor Wants You to Know...
Sure, wedding vendors want your business! However, it’s not fair to ask us to negotiate our prices and ask for tons of discounts (especially if you were already given a discount!) on our services. You're not going to talk the doctor's office or the restaurant down on your final bill. In fact, I'd venture to say the doctor's office or restaurant would probably actually laugh if that actually happened. So, why do many people think this is normal practice— or even fair to do with wedding vendors?
You get what you pay for...experience costs more, but it's worth it to have a successful and gorgeous wedding day!